The article I chose for the Relationship Education blog discussion is called "Confessions of a Recovering Stonewaller." Stonewalling is when a couple attempts to work out a difficult issue in multiple ways and nothing works, so one partner eventually refuses to engage and ices the other partner out. This causes a huge strain in a relationship because the issue is not getting resolved. The article follows a couple who has suffered from this issue. It was mainly the husband that would do the stonewalling and it would cause the wife to feel disconnected, not respected and insecure in their relationship. They eventually sought out help from a counselor and the husband began to realize that his pattern of stonewalling originated from his childhood. His parents would frequently ignore his feelings, thoughts and needs as a child so as a result he has picked up those habits. Now that he knows where the problem has originated, he is more self aware and his relationship with his wife as greatly improved. My takeaway from this article is that it is important to really listen to your partners feelings and engage rather than ignore or criticize them for the way that they are feeling.