Clearing is a term that describes the process of coming to terms with our own anger without ever speaking to the other person. By developing methods to free ourselves from carrying the anger, we feel lighter and our relationship improves. One method of clearing is putting the issue in perspective by seeing that it is small enough that it does not deserve attention or mention. Another method is thinking of all the wonderful aspects of our partner, making a minor irritation fade in importance.
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