The Secrets of Great Relationships
This piece seemed to go hand-in-hand with the chapter over viewing relationship education. The most interest point made in this chapter is albeit a briefly made, overarching point, but important nonetheless is highlighting the amount of preparation that a couple puts into a wedding but never the marriage. I think couples believe that once they make it past the stress of the wedding they’ll no longer face an uphill battle. Contrary to their belief though, marriage will almost always be filled with future uphill battles. The chapter provides great resources for prospective couples hoping to build a marriage as well as throwing a lavish wedding. Relationship education should instill values of conflict resolution, respect, and communication.
This article found in Psychology Today outlines fundamental values that couples have found necessary to ensure successful marriages. I think few fully anticipate the degree of change that ensues once you transition from simply a relationship to a marriage. Responsibility, commitment, and vulnerability are all requirements for a happy and healthy partnership. Interestingly, both Psychology Today and the author of our textbook noted the importance of security and confidence outside of the relationship in order to foster a meaningful relationship with another. I think we often forget that we cannot pour what needs to be poured into a relationship if our own personal tanks are empty. We also must be able to exist separate from the person we are in a relationship with. If we lack happiness within ourselves about ourselves, it is unlikely we will truly feel fulfilled in our other personal relationships.
I think it is imperative that couples devote at least as much time to developing and nurturing their relationships with each other as they devote to the planning of a wedding.