Life Long Learning by Linda & Charlie Bloom
I love the way Linda defines what is required in order to learn. She states, “to learn requires being willing to try something new, to make mistakes, and at time, to feel awkward and embarrassed.” Being married I have found this to be true in so many ways. Who you are today is not who you will be tomorrow. You change every day and as a couple, you have to learn everything about each other as well as learn how to adapt to the changes that are going to take place. There will be times when mistakes are made, probably more often than you think. No one is perfect, and together you have to overcome those mistakes
Another huge point that Linda and Charlie expressed was the need for support. We all need support in more ways than you think. Just like Linda stated in the article, support can be found in so many ways. From books and the internet to a professional, they are all ways to help build our relationships with our spouse. Setting goals to help strengthen your relationship with your spouse is also important. The more education you have on how to strengthen and support your relationship, the stronger your goals are which in turn makes for a stronger relationship.
Linda and Charlie explained two different models in the article. The first one was a maintenance model which would limit the growth of the relationship as well as each person in the relationship. The focus for this model is protection and it is also dependent on each partner. There is a lot of jealousy and fear involved with this model and one person is always above the other in the relationship. The transformation model, on the other hand, is focused more on the becoming whole within the very open relationship. The couple trusts one another and share the same power in the relationship. There isn’t one person who is above the other and each one empowers the other. This model, in my opinion, is how a relationship should be. Each person should lift the other one up to be the best that they can be. Your spouse should be the one to help you be a better person than you were without him/her.